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It's impossible to chat with Biet Simkin and not feel loftier. The musician, artist, and spiritual teacher has such a genuine sense of joyfulness which filters through everything she does, which is why we needed to tap her for "How I Thrive." Her positive-only attitude will undoubtedly serve as inspo for all. 

What's one thing you do for your body every day/week? Gosh, I do so much more than just one thing for my body in a day/week... It may sound boring and I don't wanna send a laundry list, but a day without an outdoor walk, physical exercise, meditation, gua sha facial, breathwork (and the list goes on and on) is not a day at all. To me, I make my life a series of opposite actions, so whatever I don't "wanna" do ... I do, and I do it with a smile.

What's your favorite thing about your body today? That it experiences great bliss and great pain. To me, this combination is so shocking and so unique to being a human on earth. The dirty, messy, sexy, crazy of it all seems like it can only happen in a body that is in some way and in some time hurtling towards death. That unknowable thing makes it so sacred.

What's a habit or experience you do to feel good? Silence and breath. Music and stomping. Laughter. All of these get me out of my mind and into my bliss.

Social media can build a tribe but also be tricky — how do you manage your digital life? I manage my digital life just the way I manage everything, through the veil of joy. Does it pass the joy test? If someone's feed makes me joyful and gleeful, I keep it flowing in. If someone's feed makes me feel icky, because there is something dishonest there or simply out of alignment, I cut it. To me, the key to a healthy social media life is generosity. I ask myself every day: am I posting this to be giving? If the answer is yes, I post. I also keep social friends who themselves are authentic and generous. 

 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

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How have you taught yourself to love your body? It took a long time. I was so brainwashed by media and exposure to the soft-core porn visuals of the '80s as a child and learned that there is only one kind of beauty. In the end, I had to accept that I look exactly the way I look and I have the flaws I have. As time went on, I decided I was going to love myself no matter what I weighed, no matter what I ate, no matter what flaws I have. At first, that led to eating a lot of pizza and feeling super weighed down, emotionally. After a few years, though, it evened out and I started to want to feel good more than I wanted to look good. Once the desire became about how my body and mind felt and how much access I had to my soul, I was able to quite joyfully select eating healthy because I wasn't trying to perfect anything. I am just trying to feel present and useful — and for me, that happens way more easily when I eat whole foods.

What do you tell yourself on days that feel challenging? I let myself listen to all the nasty things my mind says on bad days. I write down every nasty thing it says and I watch. I watch it so I can learn its evil methods of trying to break me down. Usually, by calling it out and seeing it, it disintegrates. I also sometimes text the nasty things it says to a trusted buddy I have selected who helps me to laugh at it. That vulnerable share usually squashes it dead.

Who are your fave body-positive leaders/thinkers? I love Dana James, author, and nutritionist (and she is one of my besties). I love my friend Melissa Wood Tepperberg, she seems to get the joy aspect of it all. In general, it isn't a field I follow specifically, but what I have found that works for me are people who are focused on honesty. To be truly honest is what is most beautiful. We all have different ideas about when we are being truthful — for me, the truth is piercing. It hurts when you hear it, 'cause in some way we all know the truth.